Lesson Plan: When Siblings Fight: A Bouncer, A Referee and a Therapist Can Help!
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- Bouncer |ˈbounsər| noun 1 a person employed by a nightclub or similar establishment to prevent troublemakers from entering or to eject them from the premises.
- referee |ˌrefəˈrē| noun 1 an official who watches a game or match closely to ensure that the rules are adhered to and (in some sports) to arbitrate on matters arising from the play.
- resolution |ˌrezəˈlo͞oSH(ə)n| noun 2 the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter: the peaceful resolution of all disputes | a successful resolution to the problem.
- brawl |brôl| noun a rough or noisy fight or quarrel.
- Apparently |əˈperəntlē| adverb [sentence adverb] as far as one knows or can see: the child nodded, apparently content with the promise.
- saturate verb |ˈsaCHəˌrāt| [with object] • (usually be saturated with) fill (something or someone) with something until no more can be held or absorbed: they’ve become thoroughly saturated with powerful and seductive messages from the media.
- therapist |ˈTHerəpəst| noun • a psychoanalyst, psychologist, etc., who treats psychological problems; a psychotherapist: cost is one factor keeping them from the therapist ‘s couch.
- provoke |prəˈvōk| verb [with object] • stimulate or incite (someone) to do or feel something, especially by arousing anger in them: a bully can provoke you into a fight.
- impromptu |imˈpräm(p)ˌt(y)o͞o| adjective& adverb done without being planned, organized, or rehearsed: [as adjective] : an impromptu press conference | [as adverb] : he spoke impromptu.
- guzzle |ˈɡəzəl| verb [with object] eat or drink (something) greedily: we guzzle our beer and devour our pizza | figurative : this car guzzles gas.
Source: New Oxford American Dictionary
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As the mediator for mini quarreling versions of myself, I want to pull out my hair by the fistful. Sometimes, I channel my inner yogi and lead an impromptu group meditation. During other crises, I’ve sent us all to separate rooms, so I could hide from the bickering and guzzle rosé. At this point, I’d try just about anything.
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Chris Harrod worked at pubs and nightclubs in Manchester, England, as a bar bouncer.
“The trick is using minimum force and maximum effort,” Harrod told me when I asked how to stop a fight before it starts. “Even the roughest, toughest lads would use the same approach, and much of what they did was just menace. You’d look at ‘em and think there’s no way I want to fight you.”
Steve Stevens, retired referee in chief for the U.S.A. Hockey Pacific District, started reffing in 1980.
“Before you skate in to break up a fight, you look ‘em over. If it’s a lopsided fight, you break it up,” Stevens explained when I asked how he handled on-ice altercations.
“If it’s a willing fight, you let ‘em fight,” he continued. “Keep watch but don’t jump into the fray until one of ‘em grabs a hold of the other or they go down. You do not get in the fight — that’s the fastest way to get knocked out.”
Maggie Carroll Vaughan, Ph.D., is a marriage and family therapist in New York City; she specializes in relationship issues.
“Maintain composure — it’s easy to get rattled when you’re with people who are arguing,” she explained. “You want to soften the anger of both parties. Validate each person. Point out what the two sides have in common so they can stop feeling like they are on opposing teams and can get on the same team.”
Detective Mory Banks has policed Los Angeles County for 13 years. He’s resolved domestic disputes, broken up gang fights and de-escalated conflicts in Watts, Compton and South Los Angeles.
“Have one stay in the house, one step outside,” Detective Banks advised. “Get them far away from each other and out of each other’s eyesight. If they both live there, we can’t tell either of the parties to leave; we try to come to a resolution.”
Chriss Thompson has been teaching kindergarten for 18 years at Roynon Elementary School in La Verne, Calif.
“I teach them that when someone is doing something they don’t like, to tell them in a nice firm voice, ‘Stop it, I don’t like that,’” Thompson explained.