Lesson Plan: Offering Advice That People Will Appreciate
- distress |dəˈstres| noun –1 extreme anxiety, sorrow, or pain: to his distress he saw that she was trembling.
- albeit |ôlˈbēitalˈbēit| conjunction – although: he was making progress, albeit rather slowly.
- chime in –PHRASAL VERB interject a remark: “Yes, you do that,” Doreen chimed in eagerly.
- overlook |ˌōvərˈlo͝ok| [with object] verb -ignore or disregard (something or someone, : : he was overlooked by the Nobel committee.
- counsel |ˈkounsəl| noun-advice, especially that given formally.
- grasp |ɡrasp| verb [with object] get mental hold of; comprehend fully: the way in which children could grasp complex ideas.
- redundant |rəˈdəndənt| adjective – not or no longer needed or useful; superfluous: this redundant brewery has been converted into a library | many of the old skills had become redundant.
- qualifications |ˌkwäləfəˈkāSH(ə)n| noun-1 a quality or accomplishment that makes someone suitable for a particular job or activity: only one qualification required—a fabulous sense of humor.
- expertise |ˌekspərˈtēzˌekspərˈtēs| noun-expert skill or knowledge in a particular field: technical expertise.
- reassure |ˌrēəˈSHo͝or| verb say or do something to remove the doubts and fears of someone: he understood her feelings and tried to reassure her | [with object and clause] : Joachim reassured him that he was needed |
Grammar Focus: Identifying Prepositions
- I didn’t want to put our relationship at risk in case she changed her mind.
- It’s understandable to want to help when we see people struggling or in pain.
- Giving advice increases one’s sense of personal power.
- Here are other things to keep in mind to make sure the advice you give to others will help.
Identify The Speakers
Leigh Tost, an associate professor of management and organization at the University of Southern California Marshall School of Business. “Expertise is a tricky thing…“To take advice from someone is to agree to be influenced by them.Sometimes when people don’t take advice, they’re rejecting the idea of being controlled by the advice-giver more than anything.”
Heather Harilesky, an advice columnist and author of What if This Were Enough? “It’s almost like people will say to you, ‘I want a strategy,’ and what they really mean is, ‘I want someone to understand.”
Melody Li, an Austin, Texas-based licensed and marriage family therapist “Would you be willing to hear some of my ideas, or is now not a good time?” This balances the playing field. Be prepared for the person to decline your offer to give input.
Austin Kleon, author of Steal Like an Artist. “What do you want to know specifically that I can help you with?” This way, he won’t overwhelm the person with irrelevant information.